Tony Mantor: Why Not Me ?

Author Louise Barnett shares her powerful journey through bipolar disorder, addiction, suicide recovery, and healing after years of living without answers. An inspiring conversation about hope, resilience, and finding purpose beyond mental illness.

Show Notes: What happens when a parent refuses to accept that "this is just the way it is"? In this inspiring episode of Why Not Me? Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide, host Tony Mantor welcomes autism advocate Colleen Lamar, whose personal journey as the mother of two autistic sons led to the creation of opportunities that continue to impact countless families. Colleen shares the emotional story of her sons' diagnoses, the challenges of navigating therapy, education, insurance battles, and public schools, and how a year living in Germany completely changed her perspective on autism. She explains how that experience inspired her determination to advocate for her children and eventually help establish the Jeremiah Center, an innovative educational program that provides neurodivergent students with the opportunity to thrive in a supportive private school environment. The conversation also explores sibling relationships, faith, advocacy, independent living, the importance of community, and the…

When Julianna Scott’s son was diagnosed autistic at two, doctors predicted he would never be mainstreamed in school, drive, or live independently. Today, at 25, he has accomplished all three. Julianna joins Tony Mantor to share her family’s journey through autism, anxiety, depression, OCD, behavioral challenges, and advocacy—and why parents should focus less on predictions and more on progress, possibility, and the child in front of them.

Author Sonia Hebden shares her family's powerful journey through autism, severe mental illness, trauma, and hope, offering encouragement and practical wisdom for families facing extraordinary challenges.

Award-winning filmmaker and advocate Susie Singer Carter joins Tony Mantor to share the deeply personal story behind her mission to reform America's long-term care system. After losing her mother to complications caused by nursing home neglect during a 16-year battle with Alzheimer's disease, Susie turned her grief into action through her documentary and nonprofit organization, ROAR (Respect, Oversight, Advocacy, and Reform for Long-Term Care). She discusses the challenges facing families, the need for greater accountability and transparency in elder care, and how individuals can help drive meaningful change for future generations

After losing his father to suicide at age 22, Sean Hotchkiss fell into addiction before rebuilding his life through healing, vulnerability, and purpose. In this powerful conversation, he shares why men struggle in silence, how emotional resilience is built, and why asking for help is one of the strongest things a person can do.

Retired undercover detective Todd McGuire shares his powerful journey through grief, PTSD, suicide loss, and healing after years in organized crime investigations.

Dr. Rachel Moseley joins Tony Mantor for an important discussion about autism, mental health, and suicide prevention. Drawing from both her personal experience as an autistic adult diagnosed later in life and her professional research, she explains the hidden impact of masking, bullying, isolation, and late diagnosis on mental health. This conversation offers valuable insight, practical guidance, and hope for autistic individuals, families, educators, and mental health professionals.

At 40 years old, Gemma Inggal's life changed forever when she suffered a stroke after what seemed like a normal weekend. She shares her journey through recovery, the hidden challenges of post-stroke fatigue, anxiety, and sensory overload, and how determination helped her return to horseback riding, boxing, and ultimately complete the London Marathon. Today, Gemma uses her experience to support other brain injury survivors, proving that resilience, hope, and purpose can emerge from life's greatest challenges.

Show Notes: What happens when an autism diagnosis changes the direction of your family's life? In this heartfelt episode of Why Not Me? Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide, Tony Mantor welcomes Kelly Jensen, co-host of the Refrigerator Moms podcast, autism advocate, and mother of a 26-year-old autistic son. Kelly shares the emotional realities of recognizing autism in the early 2000s, navigating years of therapies, advocating through the education system, supporting siblings, and discovering practical tools that made a meaningful difference—including the Zones of Regulation, adaptive communication, music therapy, and sensory supports. The conversation also explores Transcranial Magnetic Stimulation (TMS), an innovative brain stimulation treatment that Kelly credits with dramatically improving her son's anxiety, communication, independence, and quality of life. She explains how TMS works, who may benefit, current insurance coverage, and why families should stay informed about emerging treatment…

Show Notes What if the biggest obstacle facing autistic individuals isn't autism itself—but the way society chooses to understand it? In this thought-provoking episode of Why Not Me? Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide, host Tony Mantor sits down with nationally recognized educational and behavior therapist Robert J. Bernstein, who has spent more than 35 years helping autistic children, adults, and families discover practical pathways to growth. Robert shares the personal experiences that shaped his life's work, including raising a son on the autism spectrum and growing up with a brother who is autistic. Together, Tony and Robert explore why every autistic person deserves to be understood as an individual rather than through a diagnostic label. They discuss Robert's award-winning book Uniquely Normal, the importance of discovering the "reservoir of normalcy" within every autistic individual, why cognitive understanding often succeeds where behavior management falls short, and how educators can…

Show Notes What if the biggest breakthrough in autism isn't changing autistic people—but changing the way we see them? In this inspiring episode of Why Not Me?, Tony Mantor sits down with internationally recognized autism advocate, educator, author, and founder of The Miracle Project, Elaine Hall. After adopting her son from Russia and later learning he was autistic, Elaine's life took an unexpected turn that would ultimately transform autism advocacy around the world. Together, they discuss the importance of meeting autistic individuals where they are, replacing judgment with understanding, and focusing on strengths instead of deficits. Elaine shares the story behind The Miracle Project, the Emmy Award-winning documentary Autism: The Musical, her work influencing Hollywood toward authentic neurodivergent representation, and why creating communities of belonging matters more than simply talking about inclusion. The conversation also explores late autism identification, masking, neurodiversity, communication…

Show Notes What happens when someone is told they'll never walk, speak, or regain their independence—and then proves everyone wrong? In this inspiring episode of Why Not Me?, Tony Mantor welcomes Mark Desmond, founder of High Hopes, a nationally recognized nonprofit dedicated to helping individuals recover from traumatic brain injuries, strokes, multiple sclerosis, and other neurological conditions. For more than 50 years, Mark has challenged conventional thinking by helping thousands of people achieve what many believed was impossible. Through compassion, persistence, community, and individualized care, High Hopes has become a place where recovery is measured not just in physical milestones, but in renewed confidence, purpose, and hope. Together they discuss: The truth about brain injury recovery Why Mark believes there is no such thing as a recovery plateau The emotional challenges families face after life-changing injuries Building confidence after devastating setbacks Why hope is one of the most powerful…

Show Notes: What does it really take to help a child with autism succeed in today's school system? In this powerful episode of Why Not Me?, Tony Mantor sits down with Dr. Christopher Khoury, educational diagnostician, and special education expert who has spent more than two decades helping students and families navigate autism, learning differences, and individualized education. Dr. Khoury shares what happens behind the scenes of the IEP process, why every autistic student deserves to be seen as an individual—not a label—and how schools have evolved in supporting neurodiverse learners. He also opens up about his own journey overcoming a reading disability, earning a PhD without ever reading books in the traditional way, and how that experience shaped his passion for helping others discover their unique strengths. Together, Tony and Dr. Khoury discuss: How autism is evaluated within the school system The critical role of IEPs and individualized support Why collaboration between parents and educators changes…

Show Notes What happens when an autism expert becomes the grandmother of a child on the spectrum? In this heartfelt episode of Why Not Me? Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide, Tony Mantor sits down with Jennifer Kaufman—author of Grandparenting on the Spectrum: A Journey from Both Sides of the Desk—to explore autism through the unique lens of both a school principal and a grandmother. Jennifer shares how her grandson's diagnosis transformed her understanding of autism, challenged long-held assumptions, and reshaped family relationships. The conversation explores the important role grandparents play in supporting both autistic children and their parents while emphasizing empathy, acceptance, and inclusion. Jennifer also discusses her work training police officers, first responders, and campus security to better recognize and respond to autistic individuals during high-pressure situations. From the Blue Envelope Program to sensory awareness and communication strategies, she explains how education can…

Show Notes What does mental health look like when someone has lost everything? In this inspiring episode of Why Not Me?, Tony Mantor sits down with Weanne Estrada, Mental Health Specialist with ADRA International (Adventist Development and Relief Agency), to explore the realities of humanitarian work in more than 120 countries around the world. Together they discuss how mental health extends far beyond therapy, why culture matters in treatment, the resilience of refugees, and how communities recover after unimaginable loss. Wynne shares powerful stories from disaster zones, refugee camps, and conflict areas while offering hope through compassion, dignity, and human connection. This conversation challenges common misconceptions about refugees, humanitarian aid, serious mental illness, and recovery while reminding us that every person deserves to be seen first as a human being. Whether you're passionate about mental health, humanitarian work, autism advocacy, or simply understanding the human experience, this…

(Show Notes) What if addiction isn't the real problem? In this powerful episode of Why Not Me? Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide, Tony Mantor sits down with psychologist, TEDx speaker, and bestselling author Dr. Adi Jaffe to challenge everything we've been taught about addiction, recovery, trauma, and personal transformation. Drawing from both his professional expertise and his own remarkable journey from addiction and prison to becoming a UCLA-trained psychologist, Dr. Jaffe explains why destructive behaviors often begin as attempts to survive emotional pain—not moral failures. Together they discuss: • Why addiction is often a response to trauma, pain, and unmet emotional needs • The powerful role shame plays in keeping people trapped • Why willpower alone rarely creates lasting change • How habits are formed in the brain—and why changing them takes time • The connection between anxiety, depression, addiction, and self-worth • Why healing begins with understanding instead of judgment • The…

Show Notes What happens when the diagnosis changes, the struggle feels endless, and hope seems impossible to find? In this episode of Why Not Me?, Tony Mantor sits down with writer and journalist Meg LeDuc to discuss her personal journey through depression, anxiety, psychosis, suicide attempts, self-harm, recovery, and ultimately healing. Meg shares how years of misdiagnosis, hospitalization, and mental health challenges shaped her life—and how determination, faith, support, and the right treatment helped her rebuild it. This honest conversation explores what it feels like to live with serious mental illness, the realities of psychosis, the impact of stigma, and why recovery is possible even after the darkest moments. Whether you're living with mental illness, supporting someone who is, or simply looking to better understand the human experience, this episode offers insight, compassion, and hope. In This Episode: Meg's journey through anxiety, depression, and psychosis The challenges of diagnosis and finding…

Send us Fan Mail Show Notes What happens when the systems designed to help people with serious mental illness become the very barriers preventing care? In Part 2 of this important conversation, Tony Mantor welcomes Dr. Aaron Meyer and Anne Marie Council for a candid discussion about the failures and possibilities within America's mental health system. Together, they explore why so many individuals spend years cycling through emergency rooms, jails, homelessness, and crisis without ever receiving the long-term treatment they truly need. The conversation examines the gap between policy and practice, the importance of housing with wraparound support, and why accountability—not simply creating more laws—may be the key to meaningful change. This episode challenges listeners to rethink assumptions about involuntary treatment, homelessness, public safety, and compassion while offering practical ways communities can advocate for a better behavioral health system. If you've ever wondered why so many people fall…

Send us Fan Mail In this important episode of Why Not Me? Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide, Tony Mantor sits down with Dr. Alan Meyer, psychiatrist and Behavioral Health Officer for the City of San Diego Fire-Rescue Department, and Ann Marie Council, retired Senior Deputy City Attorney and mental health policy advisor, for an in-depth discussion about the challenges facing today's mental health system. Together, they explore why so many individuals with serious mental illness fall through the cracks, the disconnect between policy and real-world implementation, and how communities can better support those in crisis before tragedy strikes. The conversation covers assisted outpatient treatment, California's CARE Act, healthcare burnout, homelessness, autism, schizophrenia, and the urgent need for earlier intervention and stronger collaboration between healthcare providers, lawmakers, first responders, and community organizations. This is the first of a two-part series that shines a light on the…

Send us Fan Mail We talk with John Rolls about the Gremlin Club’s Sunday open mic in Camarthen and how it grows from a rehearsal night into a welcoming community where people leave their troubles at the door. We dig into what real inclusion looks like for autism, mental health, and disability when the room treats everyone as equal and still makes space for what people need. • how the Gremlin Club open mic starts as a Welsh Factor practice night • why the night becomes about community building over competition • John stepping in to run it after Elise’s bowel cancer diagnosis • building confidence for nervous newcomers through crowd support • making space for autistic singers and people with mental health challenges • handling disability and access needs while keeping the same respect for everyone • why the event is not branded as karaoke and how the format keeps it fun • filming for nostalgia and feedback while choosing not to live stream • word-of-mouth promotion and small grassroots marketing efforts If…

Send us Fan Mail We sit with author Jerri Clark as he explains how severe mental illness can create a “gone but not gone” grief that families carry in silence. We talk about ambiguous loss, why closure often never comes, and how to keep living with love and meaning even when the outcome is out of our control. • Jerri’s story of losing his son through psychosis, system failures, and suicide • What ambiguous loss means and why the ambiguity is unfixable • The guilt families feel when they grieve someone still living • Naming the losses: relationship, future, safety, predictability • Coping as a nonlinear process that does not deliver resolution • Learning to live with grief without letting it become your only identity • “This is not my fault” as a practical starting point • Adjust mastery and revising attachment when you cannot control outcomes • What readers can expect from the book’s “do now” reflections and exercises • Why community, empathy, and support networks matter for healing If this kind of…

Send us Fan Mail We sit down with former U.S. Representative Patrick Kennedy to get specific about what a real national mental health strategy looks like and why the current system wastes money while people end up isolated, hospitalized, incarcerated, or living on the streets. We dig into integrated care, schools-based prevention, telehealth, and the rising risks of AI so listeners walk away with practical policy ideas and a clear sense of what needs to change next. • the need for a national blueprint that links housing, healthcare, and community supports • aligning financial incentives so integrated care becomes the default • why siloed budgets drive higher costs in ER use, incarceration, and homelessness • reducing stigma by integrating mental health into standard medical care • building mental health literacy through routine screening and early help in schools • expanding effective therapy access through telehealth and proper reimbursement • fixing cross-state licensure barriers to match patients with the…

Send us Fan Mail We talk with former U.S. representative Patrick Kennedy about why mental health parity still fails in practice and what it takes to make insurers and employers cover care that actually works. We keep coming back to one idea: real change happens when we build power and design a system that rewards early help, long-term outcomes, and community support. • Barriers to full enforcement of the Mental Health Parity and Addiction Equity Act • Why payers respond to penalties more than long-term value • How lobbying, regulation and legal appeals weaken consumer protections • Building political power by organizing families and breaking silos • The business case for early intervention and recovery supports • Why supportive housing and community services can beat revolving-door crisis care • The 90-90-90 by 2033 framework for screening, evidence-based care and recovery • Lessons from the Community Mental Health Act and the cost of dividing communities • Moving from over-medicalized solutions to…

Send us Fan Mail We sit down with Colorado State Senator Judy Amabile to connect one family’s painful path through serious mental illness to the laws that decide whether people get treatment or get pushed into homelessness and the courts. We talk honestly about psychosis, stigma, and the hard policy choices behind civil commitment, Medicaid rules, and building enough beds to stop the cycle. • Her son’s schizoaffective disorder and the road to diagnosis • Early signs like paranoia and thought broadcasting • Family anger and confusion turning into empathy • NAMI Family-to-Family as a bridge to advocacy • Why mental illness feels like the “no casserole disease” • The jump from lived experience to writing policy • Civil commitment and AOT as a contested safety net • Competency waitlists and why they don’t equal treatment • The “churn” between jail, hospitals, and the street • Medicaid changes that allow longer inpatient stays If you know someone who has a story to share, tell them to contact us at why…

Send us Fan Mail We sit down with Virginia State Senator Creigh Deeds to talk about how personal loss turns into a long-term push for mental health reform that actually survives the news cycle. We focus on what legislation can change, what funding really buys, and why the mental health workforce crisis is the wall every good idea hits. • his path from rural public service to mental health advocacy after his son’s diagnosis and death • why he builds a legislator-led commission so reforms do not die on a shelf • taking lawmakers into hospitals, crisis units, and schools to see gaps firsthand • expanding community mental health services statewide through budget-driven mandates • investing in long-term supportive housing as a stability tool for serious mental illness • assisted outpatient treatment limits when there are not enough clinicians to deliver care • loan forgiveness, residency expansion, and pay increases to strengthen the behavioral health workforce pipeline • handling constituent calls and the…

Send us Fan Mail We sit down with former Maine State Senator John Nutting to talk about why serious mental illness belongs in the medical system, not the jail system, and how court ordered treatment can keep people alive and communities safer. We walk through Maine’s Progressive Treatment Plan, the fight to fund and implement it, and what families can do to push for mental health legislation that actually works. • John Nutting’s background in public service and the case for treating brain disorders like any other medical condition • What Maine calls AOT and how the Progressive Treatment Plan works in practice • Why anosognosia changes the ethics and logistics of “voluntary” treatment • The gap between family needs and what policy often delivers • How cycling through hospitals and jails destroys bed capacity and budgets • Lessons from other states, including Kendra’s Law, Kevin’s Law, and concerns about voluntary-only models • What separates real legislation from bills that look good but fail in…

Send us Fan Mail We talk with Iowa State Representative Ann Meyer about how mental health legislation gets built and why access to care still fails families in crisis. We dig into provider shortages, the fight for mandatory follow-up after commitment, and how constituents can move lawmakers with personal stories and local relationships. • her path from nursing to the Iowa House and why constituent stories changed her focus • why access to mental health care breaks down during a crisis and what “waiting” really means • the provider shortage problem and steps to grow psychiatry and therapy capacity • incentives that help recruit and retain clinicians in rural states • why 30 days of treatment is often not enough for severe mental illness • the case management follow-up bill that passed the House then stalled in the Senate • how law enforcement and ERs absorb the cost when the system fails • homelessness, shelter rules, and the overlap with substance use disorder • how to speed change through education,…

Send us Fan Mail We sit down with Connecticut State Senator Christine Cohen and advocate Denise Paley to unpack how mental health legislation gets built, watered down, and sometimes rescued through strategy and coalition work. We focus on crisis intervention training, prison mental health care, and the hard questions around rights, re-entry, and what real accountability looks like. • Senator Cohen’s personal path into mental health advocacy • why mental health bills stall between chambers and committees • compromise as a necessity and a long-term risk • budget priorities and the fight to fund care • stigma around mental illness and incarcerated people • how advocates and legislators build trust and momentum • crisis intervention team training as a practical reform • re-entry realities and why untreated illness drives recidivism • staffing shortages for corrections officers and mental health providers • Assisted Outpatient Treatment and the ethics of forced care • anosognosia and why refusal is not always…

Send us Fan Mail We sit down with Massachusetts Senator Cindy Friedman to talk about how mental health laws change real access to care, and why families still hit walls even when “parity” exists. We dig into AOT, crisis diversion, insurance limits, and the practical fixes that keep people out of ERs and jails. • her personal path into serious mental illness advocacy and why systems matter • what changed after the Mental Health ABC Act 2.0 and why outpatient demand rises • why reimbursement rates still skew against behavioral health despite parity laws • how crisis-first funding leaves ongoing care underpaid and hard to find • trauma as a driver of worsening illness and the gap in trauma-informed support • why Massachusetts has no AOT law and how old legal standards shape treatment today • addressing fears of coercion while explaining least restrictive court-ordered services • co-responder teams that pair police with social workers for de-escalation • restoration centers as an alternative to ER screening and…

Send us Fan Mail We talk with Washington State Senator Manka Dhingra about why mental health care so often lands in the justice system and what it takes to change that through smart legislation and real implementation. We dig into funding, workforce, 988 crisis response, diversion programs, and how communities can push practical mental health reform that actually reaches people. • her path from prosecutor work to mental health court and forensic mental health • why jails and prisons function as default mental health hospitals • the biggest legislative roadblocks: funding levels and views of individual liberty • assisted outpatient treatment in Washington and why implementation varies by county • how Washington built a stakeholder-driven model to implement 988 • oversight, metrics, and the workforce shortage that blocks care even with funding • rural mental health access, telehealth, and consultation lines like PAL • diversion options from first law enforcement contact through jail re-entry supports • sharing…

Send us Fan Mail We sit down with former Congressman and psychologist Tim Murphy to show how mental health laws really get made and why “good ideas” often get changed or stripped before they ever help families. We dig into Medicaid rules, treatment access, psychosis risks, and the hard truth that silence is how broken systems stay in place. • the real path of a bill from idea to compromise to final vote • why mental health policy creates intense conflict between groups • assisted outpatient treatment as an alternative to repeated hospitalization • how “gravely disabled” standards shape who can get care • Medicaid payment rules that discourage psychiatric beds and longer stays • why Congressional Budget Office scoring can derail reforms • what happens when severe mental illness is handled in jails • solitary confinement as a driver of worsening symptoms and suicide risk • high potency marijuana and the rising risk of psychosis • the estimated $340B to $380B annual cost of schizophrenia • families left holding…

Send us Fan Mail We bring together seven voices to face the hardest question families live with: when severe mental illness and psychosis take over, what does “choice” really mean. We share what it looks like when schools, hospitals, and law enforcement treat brain illness like behavior, and we lay out concrete steps that can shorten the gap to real care. • capacity and consent when someone refuses help during psychosis • power of attorney and psychiatric advance directives plus where they fall short • anosognosia explained through dementia comparisons and street homelessness • the “10-year gap” to diagnosis and why mandatory care and AOT come up • early warning signs of psychosis and why peers and schools need training • privacy barriers and why HIPAA is often misread or over-restricted • CIT training realities and the need for the right officers • frustration with professional leadership and the call for more beds and workforce training • legislative paths including HR 4022 and ending the IMD exclusion…

Send us Fan Mail We sit with seven voices to name what happens when psychosis and serious mental illness are misunderstood, under-treated, and pushed into jails, courts, and the streets. We challenge the quiet standard of neglect and outline what it takes to turn awareness into policy, funding, and care that actually saves lives. • failures in jail-based competency restoration and medication continuity • why anosognosia is under-taught and widely misunderstood • the life expectancy gap for schizophrenia and why it should alarm all of us • first-episode psychosis dismissed at intake unless suicide is stated • families carrying trauma in silence and why tragedies stay out of public view • reframing “crime” as illness when actions happen during psychosis • culture change through education and responsible media storytelling • courts naming behavioral health as a top driver of caseloads and cost • coalition-building across chambers and parties to move stalled bills • cost comparisons of hospitalization and…

Send us Fan Mail We bring together seven voices to talk honestly about serious mental illness and why families are pushed to wait for crisis before help is allowed. We challenge outdated laws, uneven state systems, and stigma while naming practical fixes that can make outpatient care real and measurable. • mental health codes built for inpatient care in an outpatient world • step-up assisted outpatient treatment and why earlier petitions matter • accountability gaps when AOT lacks judge involvement • voluntary programs colliding with anosognosia in schizophrenia • stigma and discrimination treating brain disease differently than other medical emergencies • early intervention standards shifting from “dangerousness” to “risk of harm” • discharge planning and why follow-up community treatment changes outcomes • Arizona and California as opposites on laws, funding, and hospital beds • criminal justice and forensic systems filling the void left by civil care • medication non-adherence, substance use, and the…

Send us Fan Mail Dr. Rachel Moseley on Autistic Suicide Prevention, Masking, Misdiagnosis, and Autistic Menopause Host Tony Mantor in Nashville welcomes returning guest Dr. Rachel Mosley to discuss her UK-based research on autistic suicidality, self-injury, masking/burnout, misdiagnosis, and menopause. Mosley explains that changes in autistic suicide rates are hard to track due to delayed and incomplete reporting, and cites data indicating suicide as the leading cause of death in autistic children in the National Child Mortality Database, likely undercounted due to missed diagnoses. Autistic participants in her research emphasize suicide prevention requires systemic societal change addressing stigma, discrimination, bullying, education accessibility, employment, financial security, and healthcare. They discuss clinicians mistaking autism for mental illness, common misdiagnosis as borderline personality disorder, the safety-driven nature of masking, and the complex emotions and relief of late diagnosis.…

Send us Fan Mail Transforming Trauma into Purpose: John King's Journey on Why Not Me In this episode of Why Not Me, embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide, host Tony Mantor interviews John King, a trauma recovery advocate, author, speaker, and survivor. John shares his compelling journey from being trafficked and abused as a child to becoming a prominent advocate for trauma recovery, neurodiversity, and anti-human trafficking. He discusses his recent autism diagnosis, the challenges of masking, and his methods for healing and resilience. John emphasizes the significance of authenticity, self-discipline, and relentless resilience in transforming trauma into a purpose-driven life. He also talks about his foundation, Give Them a Voice, and his future aspirations as a writer. This episode offers profound insights and practical advice for anyone facing similar struggles and endeavors to inspire and empower listeners worldwide. 01:08 Meet Today's Guest: John, a Trauma Recovery Advocate 02:00 John's Journey…

Send us Fan Mail Steph West on Building Starfish Social Club: Social Skills, Neurodivergent Friendship, and Helpful Social Feedback Host Tony Mantor in Nashville introduces “Why Not Me: Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide” and interviews Steph West, founder and director of Starfish Social Club in San Antonio, Texas, which runs small-group social skills programs for neurodivergent kids and teens (autism, ADHD, learning disabilities) in person and via Zoom. West describes her path from special education teacher to autism/behavior specialist and “accidental entrepreneur,” the origin of the Starfish name, early challenges with marketing, pricing, and hiring, and how COVID shut down her in-person business but led her to create online classes, develop her own curriculum, and license others to teach it. She explains how her ADHD helps her understand students and take risks, emphasizes that autistic people are often misunderstood (including around empathy), reframes friendship as “someone we choose to spend…

Send us Fan Mail Embracing Autism and Mental Health: A Conversation with Anne Grady In this episode of 'Why Not Me,' hosted by Tony Mantor in Nashville, Tennessee, guest Anne Grady shares her profound journey navigating autism and mental health. Anne, an author, speaker, and advocate, discusses her experiences raising her son Evan, who has multiple diagnoses including autism, severe mental illness, ADHD, and oppositional defiant disorder. The conversation delves into challenges around diagnosis, the importance of resilience, and strategies for coping with neurodiversity and mental health issues. Anne also talks about her books, advocacy work, and the personal and systemic difficulties she has encountered. The episode emphasizes acceptance, understanding, and the profound impact of sharing stories to inspire and connect people worldwide. Introduction to Why Not Me Meet Anne Grady: Advocate and Author Anne's Personal Journey with Her Son Evan Challenges and Resilience in Parenting Understanding Autism and…

Send us Fan Mail Danny Combs on Buildable, TACT, and Expanding Trade-Based Careers for Autistic and Neurodivergent People Host Tony Mantor welcomes Danny Combs to discuss progress since their last conversation on creating meaningful employment pathways for autistic and neurodivergent individuals. Combs shares receiving a Congressional Mentor of Honor Society Citizen Honor Award and being appointed by Colorado’s governor to the new Colorado Disability Opportunity Office, funded through reissued historic license plates that generate sustainable revenue for disability-focused grants statewide with disabled-led oversight. He introduces Buildable, a new Tennessee-based initiative launching workshops in Nashville in March with Belmont University, aiming to expand TACT’s trade-skills transition-to-employment model toward full-time programming in the fall, supported by corporate partners like Subaru. They address challenges including staffing, costs, facilities, and job availability, discuss policy barriers and data…

Send us Fan Mail Late Autism Diagnoses, Music, and Seeing Family Through a New Lens with Liam Edward Golder Host Tony Mantor welcomes listeners to Why Not Me: Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide and interviews Liam Edward Golder, a London-born music PR professional and songwriter now living in New York. Liam shares discovering his own autism later in life after his father was diagnosed around age 70, and describes how late clarity brought relief, acceptance, and a new understanding of his father’s withdrawal and difficulty reading emotions. He discusses traits such as overwhelm with menus, sensitivity to crowds, loud noise and bright lights, hyperfocus on music, photographic memory, and co-occurring ADHD and anxiety, reframing autism as a creative strength that supported a 30-year music career working with many artists. Liam also describes helping translate situations for his father, who also has paranoid personality disorder, and shares his goal of inspiring others that autism doesn’t have to limit…

Send us Fan Mail Embracing Neurodiversity: A Conversation with Autistic Educator and Author Rebecca Engle In this episode of 'Why Not Me,' hosted by Tony Mantor from Nashville, Tennessee, Rebecca Engle, an autistic educator and author, shares her journey and insights into neurodiversity in education. Rebecca discusses her experiences as a nonverbal child, the challenges she faced in academia, and the strategies she uses to support neurodivergent students. She highlights the importance of creating inclusive educational environments and challenges outdated behavioral systems. Rebecca also dives into her work as an author, particularly focusing on her children's books that address autism and stemming, and speaks about her efforts to foster understanding and acceptance of neurodiversity worldwide. Introduction to Why Not Me Meet Rebecca Engle: Autistic Educator and Advocate Rebecca's Early Life and Challenges Navigating Education and Professional Life Teaching Strategies and Classroom Experiences Rebecca's…

Send us Fan Mail Tyler Barnett on Late Autism Self-Diagnosis, Masking, and Creating “Gap Music” for Regulation Host Tony Mantor welcomes Tyler Barnett, founder of Tyler Barnett PR and an artistic music creator focused on empowering the autism community through intentional sound design and storytelling. Tyler shares that he is autistic and was diagnosed six months ago through self-diagnosis supported by years of personal data and extensive testing, after his 10-year-old daughter repeatedly told him he was autistic and he explored the topic through ChatGPT. He describes lifelong differences including deep special interests, pattern recognition, challenges in educational environments, learned eye contact, and complex masking as a professional communicator, as well as past misdiagnoses such as bipolar disorder and being medicated incorrectly. T yler discusses mixed reactions when disclosing autism, including denial from some family members and acceptance from others, and explains how masking involved mirroring…

Send us Fan Mail Making Air Travel More Accessible for Autistic Travelers: Cheryl Bischoff of Here I Go Travel Host Tony Mantor introduces the podcast “Why Not Me: Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide” and interviews Cheryl Bischoff, owner of Here I Go Travel Company. Cheryl explains how she became a Certified Autism Travel Professional through training offered by Sandals/Beaches Resorts and how she applies that knowledge by organizing airport practice events that walk participants through the full airport process—terminal check-in, TSA screening, gate procedures, jet bridge, and boarding—so travelers can desensitize and build confidence. She discusses autistic-inclusive travel needs beyond basic accessibility, including managing sound, lighting, smells, and access to reset spaces like sensory-friendly rooms, as well as tools like TSA Cares (pre-registration for guided assistance and alternative screening options) and the Hidden Disabilities Sunflower Program for voluntary identification. C heryl…

Send us Fan Mail Belqui Ortiz Millili on Parenting a Nonverbal Autistic Teen, Advocacy, and Building Support Host Tony Mantor welcomes Belqui Ortiz Millili to Why Not Me: Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide. She shares that she is the mother of a nearly 17-year-old nonverbal autistic son with high support needs, born extremely premature at six months gestation, and describes early concerns when milestones lagged compared to her older child. She recounts pushing for answers despite being told delays were due to prematurity or gender, and discusses common public misunderstandings about autism, including lack of awareness of the spectrum and confusion over changing diagnostic labels and levels. She explains how her son’s diagnosis led her into advocacy, including earning a life coaching certification to support newly diagnosed families, initially offering help for free after seeing the financial burden of therapies not fully covered by insurance. She talks about burnout, the impact autism-related…

Send us Fan Mail Faria Ash on Building the Autism Foundation, Training, Advocacy, and Safer Care in the UK Host Tony Mantor welcomes back autism advocate Faria Ash, who returns to share her progress since discussing her book on toilet training for autistic and SEND children and adults, based on her nonverbal daughter Aia’s real-life story. Faria explains that the book’s success led her to form the Autism Foundation in the UK (officially launched October 2023), expanding from workshops into autism training for communities, professionals, schools, and care homes, with a focus on communication, social interaction, repetitive behaviors, sensory impairments, and reducing challenging behaviors to improve quality of life. She describes launching an advocacy service to help parents navigate UK processes such as EHCP reports and school documentation so children receive appropriate support. The conversation addresses misconceptions about autism—especially the idea that “autism is a superpower”—and outlines autism…

Send us Fan Mail Lois Brady on Autism Digest, Real Stories, and Raising Expectations in Autism Support Host Tony Mantor welcomes Lois Brady, publisher of Autism Digest and a speech-language pathologist, to discuss how the magazine blends expert guidance with lived experience using multimedia features like QR-linked videos. Brady shares how writing Apps for Autism and contributing to Autism, Asperger’s Digest led to her acquiring the publication nearly two years ago. As the mother of an autistic son, she describes early signs, being brushed off by providers, choosing not to label him in school, and the long-term effort that helped him become independent and employed, though social challenges remain. Brady emphasizes early identification, practical parent strategies, and avoiding the Rosenthal Effect of low expectations, including teaching non-speaking individuals to type. She describes a breakthrough with a non-speaking child using text-to-speech, addresses public misconceptions, contrasts meltdowns with…

Send us Fan Mail n this episode of Why Not Me, host Tony Mantor, broadcasting from Nashville, Tennessee, delves into the mental health challenges faced by first responders and veterans. Featuring Dr. Jean Cillo, a clinical and forensic psychologist, and retired Lieutenant Tom Antonette from the NYPD, the discussion explores the PTP (Post Tour Processing) program, a pioneering mental health support initiative designed by law enforcement for law enforcement, now expanded to all first responders. The episode emphasizes the importance of providing a safe space for first responders to process trauma, the critical role of peer support, and the continuous efforts to ensure mental well-being in highly stressful jobs. Both guests shed light on the nuanced experiences of police officers, EMTs, and other first responders, underscoring the necessity for accessible mental health resources and the shift in cultural attitudes towards seeking help. First Responders and Mental Health Introducing Dr. Jean Cillo and Lt. Tom…

Send us Fan Mail Embracing Autism and Mental Health: Psychiatrist David Hager's Journey In this episode of 'Why Not Me, Embracing Autism and Mental Health Worldwide,' host Tony Mantor speaks with psychiatrist David Hager about his unplanned journey into psychiatry, his work in correctional facilities, and his unique perspectives on mental health and serious mental illnesses like schizophrenia. Hager shares his experiences from various jobs, discusses the challenges and strategies of treating incarcerated populations, and underscores the importance of viewing severe mental illnesses as neurological disorders. The conversation also touches on the issue of anosognosia and the need for better systemic support. Tune in for an insightful and heartfelt discussion aimed at fostering awareness and understanding of autism and mental health. Meet David Hager: From Vet School to Psychiatry David's Journey into Psychiatry Challenges and Rewards in Psychiatry Correctional Psychiatry: A Unique Perspective Forensic…

Send us Fan Mail Empowering Lives: Autism, Mental Health, and Healing with Dr. Cochrane In this episode Dr. Cochrane, a renowned psychologist with over three decades of experience. Together, they explore the challenges and strategies for addressing issues faced by neurodivergent individuals and those suffering from trauma. Dr. Cochrane shares her compassionate approach to cognitive behavioral therapy, the importance of self-regulation, and the power of gratitude practice. Through vivid examples, she illustrates the profound impact of vigilant parenting, therapy, and the critical distinction between feelings and facts. This powerful conversation underscores the importance of seeking help and fostering a profound understanding of autism and mental health. Meet Dr. Cochrane: A Renowned Psychologist Understanding Neurodivergence and Therapy Addressing Trauma and Emotional Regulation The Role of Coaching and Therapy Dealing with Psychosis and Severe Mental Health Issues Navigating Relationships and Communication…